I am from Chinese ancestry and have lived in both North America and the Republic of China. I grew up in a strict, highly educated family so I am accustomed to order and discipline. Through my travels and inherent curiosity, I yearn for creativity and eccentricity.
I began delving into sadomasochism early in my sexual awakening. I remember playing with a girlfriend in high school. Coaxing her over my knee for an old fashioned spanking. Convincing her to let me bind her with stockings and using the candles that were lit primarily for decoration.
It is natural for me to explore the different directions of sensation that my body and that of my partner's can take. Pain and pleasure - how the roads diverge and meet again toward the same destination. The goal is extremely personal. Whether it is a history of pain that needs to be revisited and coupled with trust or a step toward something totally new and unknown, BDSM is transcendent.
"The transgression does not deny the taboo but transcends it and completes it ." - Georges Bataille
During my education at Columbia University, I sought out literature, film, and art that dealt with power and SM. Stories inspired me - from fairytales by the Brothers Grimm to "Story of Eye" by Bataille. Analysis reinforced my own ideas. Jung and Marx. My studies have not distanced me from the reality and heat of the actual scene but, rather has added a confidence to my pleasure in BDSM.
"Your intelligence is sexy."- Morphine
Music inspires me greatly. One of my favorite pieces is Mendlesohn's Violin Concerto in E minor. The strings are sweet and aching, crying for more - exactly how I wish my submissives to be. I love all styles of music from classical to hip hop. I believe that each scene sets its own tempo and mood.
If you are looking for an extra gift to present to me, music is definitely a sure way to make me smile. Candles and fetish equipment are also appreciated.
